The No-Contact Rule: Why It’s Essential for Healing from a Narcissistic person
- Homeyra Faghihi
- Apr 2
- 3 min read
Updated: Apr 3
IMPORTANT CLARIFICATION
I want to express my deep compassion for those who are in tough situations such as co-parenting with a narcissistic person or caring for an elderly narcissistic parent. Please note that the "No-Contact Rule" does not apply to these complex situations. If you find yourself in this position, I encourage you to explore my other resources, which include guidance on setting strong boundaries.
The No-Contact Rule: Why It’s Essential for Healing from a Narcissist
Healing after a toxic relationship with a narcissistic person can be challenging. The emotional wounds run deep, and moving forward often feels overwhelming. One of the most effective steps toward healing is implementing the No-Contact Rule, a strategy that allows you to regain emotional clarity, rebuild self-worth, and break free from the cycle of manipulation.
Cutting the Toxic Cord
Imagine being tied to a heavy anchor dragging you down into deep waters. Every time you try to swim to the surface, the weight pulls you back down. Going no-contact is like cutting that cord—allowing yourself to rise, breathe, and finally move forward without being held back.
What Is the No-Contact Rule?
The No-Contact Rule for healing from a narcissist means completely cutting off communication with a narcissistic ex-partner. This includes:
No texting, calling, or emailing
No social media interactions (blocking if necessary)
Avoiding places where you might run into them
Not responding if they reach out through others
This rule helps you regain control over your emotions and prevents the narcissist from manipulating you further.
Step 1: Understand Why No Contact Is Necessary
Narcissists thrive on control and emotional reactions. By cutting off communication, you remove their ability to manipulate and hurt you. No contact:
Stops the emotional rollercoaster
Gives you space to heal
Helps you see the relationship for what it truly was
Step 2: Set Boundaries and Stick to Them
Deciding to go no-contact is one thing, but following through is another. Prepare yourself for potential hoovering tactics (attempts to pull you back in). These can include:
Fake apologies
Guilt-tripping
Sudden affection or promises to change
Stay firm. Remind yourself why you left and the importance of protecting your peace.
Step 3: Remove Triggers
Memories of the relationship can trigger emotional responses. To make no contact easier:
Delete their number and messages
Unfollow/block them on all social platforms
Get rid of objects that remind you of them
This helps minimize emotional setbacks and keeps your focus on healing.
Step 4: Focus on Self-Healing
No contact gives you the opportunity to reconnect with yourself. Use this time to:
Engage in self-care routines
Explore therapy or coaching
Develop new hobbies and interests
Rebuild your support system
Healing is about rediscovering who you are beyond the toxic relationship.
Step 5: Seek Professional Support If Needed
Breaking free from a narcissistic person hold is not easy. If you’re struggling with self-doubt or trauma, seek professional guidance. Therapy or coaching can help you process emotions and create a healthier mindset moving forward.
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Final Thoughts
The No-Contact Rule is a powerful tool for reclaiming your life after narcissistic abuse. Though it may feel difficult at first, every day without contact is a step toward freedom, clarity, and self-respect. You deserve peace. You deserve healing. You deserve to move forward—without them.
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Homeyra Faghihi, PsyD, LCSW
Empowerment Coach - Founder | Power to the Self Online Coaching
Homeyra Faghihi’s Professional Bio:
Hi, I'm Homeyra Faghihi. I coach women who struggle to say no, helping them set kind and clear boundaries and ask for what they want. I am an Empowerment Coach, a Doctor of Psychology, a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience in California, a Certified Domestic Violence Counselor, and a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician. I bring all that experience into my individual and group coaching programs. My mission is to help women reconnect with their self-worth, which is buried under persistent self-doubt and self-judgment.
Please note: No psychotherapy services are offered through this website. Coaching and education, only.
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