The Science of Confidence: How Small Wins Create Big Changes
- Dr. Homeyra Faghihi
- Jun 3
- 4 min read
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to radiate confidence, even in the face of challenges? The truth is, confidence isn't something you're born with—it's something you build. And the foundation of lasting confidence often lies in the smallest of victories. In this blog, we’ll explore the science of confidence and how small wins build confidence that leads to transformative change.
The Domino Effect
Imagine lining up a series of dominoes. The first one is tiny, easy to tip over with just a breath. But as they progress, they get bigger and heavier, until the last domino is a massive block. Tipping the first tiny domino, your small win, sets off a chain reaction, allowing you to eventually knock down even the biggest obstacles. That’s exactly how small wins build confidence.
What Science Says About Confidence
Confidence is not merely an emotional state; it's a biochemical and psychological process. Dopamine, a feel-good neurotransmitter, is released when we experience success—no matter how small. This release motivates us to continue the behavior that led to the reward. Over time, these small rewards condition your brain to seek more wins and build greater confidence.
Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy emphasizes that our behavior can shape our mind. When we act confidently, even before we feel it, our posture, actions, and small successes reinforce a confident self-image.
Signs You May Be Lacking Confidence
You hesitate to take initiative or try new things
You constantly second-guess your decisions
You fear failure to the point of paralysis
You rely heavily on others for approval and validation
You avoid challenges or situations where you might fail
Recognizing these signs is the first small win—because awareness precedes transformation.
The Power of Small Wins - Why Small Wins Matter
Small wins are achievable milestones that provide momentum. Instead of setting intimidating, grand goals that feel out of reach, breaking them into bite-sized actions makes the process manageable and motivating.
Each time you check something off your list, no matter how small, it serves as proof that you are capable, effective, and progressing. These micro-successes build internal trust, which is the essence of confidence.
Step-by-Step: How to Use Small Wins to Build Confidence
Step 1: Define What a "Win" Looks Like for You
Wins don’t have to be monumental. For some, it’s speaking up in a meeting. For others, it’s going for a short walk. Choose actions that feel a little bit out of your comfort zone, but still doable. Make your wins personal and meaningful.
Step 2: Set Daily or Weekly Mini-Goals
Focus on consistency over intensity. Set small goals like making your bed, completing a workout, or writing 100 words a day. The act of completion triggers a dopamine hit and reinforces your confidence loop.
Step 3: Track Your Progress
Document your wins in a journal, habit tracker, or app. Seeing your progress adds visual proof of your capability. When self-doubt creeps in, your log becomes a powerful reminder that you’ve done hard things before. For me, keeping my streak on Duolingo has been empowering and encouraging.
Step 4: Celebrate Every Win
It may feel silly to celebrate something small, but positive reinforcement is powerful. Share your win with a trusted friend, do a happy dance, or give yourself a sincere compliment. Celebration encodes success into your memory.
Step 5: Reflect and Reinforce
At the end of each week, review what you achieved. Ask: What worked? What did I learn? Reflection helps you internalize your progress, making confidence part of your identity.
How This Creates Big Changes
Confidence is like compound interest. Each small deposit builds over time into something powerful. When you string together dozens of small wins, you begin to reshape your self-image. You start seeing yourself as capable, resilient, and worthy.
Eventually, you'll tackle things that once seemed impossible. Public speaking, career changes, or starting a business no longer feel like distant dreams. They become your next small win.
Final Thoughts
You don’t have to wait for a major achievement to feel confident. You can build it every single day with small, deliberate actions. Small wins are the stepping stones to greatness. By focusing on what you can control and celebrating every bit of progress, you unlock the science-backed secret to authentic and lasting self-confidence.
Confidence isn’t about being fearless. It’s about choosing to act despite your fear—and trusting that each step you take brings you closer to the life you deserve.
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Dr. Homeyra Faghihi, PsyD, LCSW
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Dr. Homeyra Faghihi’s Professional Bio:
Hi, I'm Dr. Homeyra Faghihi. I coach women who struggle to say no, helping them set kind and clear boundaries and ask for what they want. I am an Empowerment Coach, a Doctor of Psychology, a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience in California, a Certified Domestic Violence Counselor, and a Certified Narcissistic Abuse Treatment Clinician. I bring all that experience into my individual and group coaching programs. My mission is to help women reconnect with their self-worth, which is buried under persistent self-doubt and self-judgment.
Please note: No psychotherapy services are offered through this website. Coaching and education, only.
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