The Foundation of Self-Care: Understanding Personal Boundaries
Hello, dear readers! I am so happy to share with you today about a topic very close to my heart. As a psychotherapist for 25 years as well as an Empowerment coach, I have seen how important personal boundaries are for good mental health.
What Are Personal Boundaries?
Personal boundaries are like invisible lines around us. They show where we end and other people begin. These lines are not physical, but they protect our feelings, our time, and our energy.
Why Do We Need Boundaries?
Imagine you have a beautiful garden. Without a fence, anyone could walk in and pick
your flowers or step on your plants. Boundaries are like that fence. They keep the good
things in and the harmful things out. When we have good boundaries:
1. We feel more in control
2. Our relationships become healthier
3. We feel less stressed
4. We like ourselves more
How to Know If You Need Better Boundaries?
In my many years helping people, I have noticed some signs that someone might need
to work on their boundaries:
β Feeling very tired or angry often
β Always saying yes, when you want to say no.
β Telling personal things to people you just met.
β Trying to fix everyone’s problems.
β Forgetting to take care of yourself.
If you see yourself in these examples, it’s ok. We can all learn to make better Boundaries.
Steps to Make Good Boundaries
1. Know What You Like and Don’t like: Think about what makes you happy and what makes you uncomfortable.
2. Use Clear Words: Tell people what you need. For example, ;I need some quiet time after work.
3. Start Small: Begin with an easy boundary and then try harder ones.
4. Keep Your Word: If you set a boundary, stick to it. This helps people respect your Needs.
5. Be Kind to Yourself: Remember, it's okay to put yourself first sometimes. This is not selfish; it’s necessary.
The Good Effects of Boundaries
One beautiful thing I have seen in my work is how good boundaries can change lives. Practicing healthy boundaries can help you feel less stressed and more confident. It helps you to feel good about yourself and experience self-respect.
Remember, making boundaries is a way to love yourself. It might feel strange at first, but with practice, it becomes easier. The benefits are wonderful!
As you go about your day, think about your boundaries. Where do you need stronger ones? How could better boundaries make your life happier?
Your journey to better self-care starts with understanding and respecting your personal boundaries. Take small steps, be patient with yourself, and watch how your life can change for the better.
Take good care, and be kind to yourself! Remember, you are worth it!
Stay in Power.
Homeyra Faghihi, PsyD,LCSW
Empowerment Coach - Founder | Power to the Self Online Coaching
